{"id":464,"date":"2021-02-03T12:15:23","date_gmt":"2021-02-03T12:15:23","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/61works.com\/onda\/?page_id=464"},"modified":"2021-02-03T13:32:50","modified_gmt":"2021-02-03T13:32:50","slug":"9-ihtimal","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/onda.com.tr\/tr\/9-ihtimal\/","title":{"rendered":"9 \u0130htimal"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"articles_page\">\n<h3 class=\"blue_text\">(Bu makale Gazete Vatan&#8217;da yay\u0131nlanm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.)<\/h3>\n<p><strong>Anlamak, anlatabilmek, anla\u015f\u0131lmak ve anla\u015fabilmek \u00fczerine kurulu bir yol, bir y\u00f6ntem ve bir \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm\u2026<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Hanzade Acar<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Sylviane Herpin diyor ki ; D\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fcz, s\u00f6ylemek istedi\u011finiz, s\u00f6yledi\u011finizi sand\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z, s\u00f6yledi\u011finiz, kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdakinin duymak istedi\u011fi, duydu\u011fu, anlamak istedi\u011fi, anlad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 sand\u0131\u011f\u0131, anlad\u0131\u011f\u0131\u2026aras\u0131nda farklar vard\u0131r. Dolay\u0131s\u0131yla insanlar\u0131n birbirini yanl\u0131\u015f anlamas\u0131 i\u00e7in en az 9 ihtimal var\u2026<\/p>\n<p>S\u00fcrekli bir d\u00f6ng\u00fc\u2026Bir s\u00fcre\u00e7\u2026.Hayat\u0131n ak\u0131\u015f\u0131na y\u00f6n veren, an\u0131, g\u00fcn\u00fc, gelece\u011fi belirleyen bir s\u00fcre\u00e7. \u0130LET\u0130\u015e\u0130M.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Anlamak, anlatabilmek, anla\u015f\u0131lmak ve anla\u015fabilmek \u00fczerine kurulu bir yol, bir y\u00f6ntem ve bir \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm\u2026<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Wikipedia\u2019n\u0131n diliyle ; belirli mesajlar\u0131n kodlanarak bir kanal arac\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131yla bir kaynaktan bir hedefe\/al\u0131c\u0131ya aktar\u0131lmas\u0131 s\u00fcreci. Ve wikipedia ayr\u0131ca diyor ki; \u0130leti\u015fim t\u00fcm taraflar\u0131n \u00fczerinden bilgi al\u0131\u015fveri\u015fi yap\u0131lacak ortak bir dili anlamalar\u0131na ihtiya\u00e7 duyar. \u0130\u015fte en \u00f6nemli nokta da bu. T\u00fcm taraflar\u0131n ortak dili anlamalar\u0131. Ya\u015fanan anla\u015fmazl\u0131klar\u0131n, kopan ileti\u015fim a\u011flar\u0131n\u0131n, ya\u015fanan ileti\u015fim kazalar\u0131n\u0131n , iptal olan projelerin k\u0131saca hayata dair yar\u0131m kalan her \u015feyin temelinde ileti\u015fimi sa\u011flayamamak s\u00f6z konusu ortak dili konu\u015famamak var.<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u0130leti\u015fim kuramamak \u00fczerine bir kara mizah\u2026<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>D\u00fcnyan\u0131n en b\u00fcy\u00fck \u00e7an\u0131 1733&#8217;te Kremlin&#8217;de yap\u0131lan \u00c7ar Kolokol \u00c7an\u0131. Ancak 216 ton a\u011f\u0131rl\u0131\u011f\u0131ndaki bu \u00e7an, bug\u00fcne kadar hi\u00e7 \u00e7almam\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Nedeni de ger\u00e7ek bir kara mizah \u00f6rne\u011fi. \u00c7an\u0131n yap\u0131m\u0131nda kalabal\u0131k bir ekip \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yor ve bir s\u00f6ylentiye g\u00f6re bu ekipler aras\u0131nda \u00e7an daha bitmeden b\u00fcy\u00fck bir anla\u015fmazl\u0131k ya\u015fan\u0131yor. \u0130\u015f\u00e7iler ikiye b\u00f6l\u00fcn\u00fcyor ve birbirleri ile ileti\u015fimi kesiyorlar. \u00c7an bitiyor ve sergilenmek \u00fczere b\u00fcy\u00fck bir alana yerle\u015ftirilip saklanmaya ba\u015flan\u0131yor. G\u00fcnlerden bir g\u00fcn \u00e7an\u0131n sakland\u0131\u011f\u0131 yerde yang\u0131n \u00e7\u0131k\u0131nca, birbiri ile k\u00fcs olan iki ekip konu\u015fmamakta inat ediyor ve i\u00e7lerinden ak\u0131ll\u0131 bir arkada\u015f yang\u0131n\u0131 suyla s\u00f6nd\u00fcrmeye karar veriyor. Kimseye sormadan, fikir almadan yap\u0131lan bu eylem sonucunda iyice \u0131s\u0131nm\u0131\u015f olan \u00e7an, \u00fczerine su d\u00f6k\u00fcl\u00fcnce \u00e7atl\u0131yor ve kullan\u0131lmaz hale geliyor. \u0130\u015fte ileti\u015fimsizli\u011fin a\u011f\u0131r bedeli. Kolokol \u00c7an\u0131 \u00f6mr\u00fc hayat\u0131nda bir kez bile \u00e7alamadan halen Kremlin\u2019de sergilenmektedir.<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u0130leti\u015fim, kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131zdaki ki\u015finin farkl\u0131 oldu\u011funu kabul etti\u011fimiz zaman ba\u015flar.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Bu kabullenme kurdu\u011fumuz ileti\u015fimin kalitesini, s\u00fcreklili\u011fini sa\u011flar. \u0130leti\u015fim beyinde ba\u015fl\u0131yor, beynin y\u00f6nlendirmesi ile s\u00f6zc\u00fcklere d\u00f6k\u00fcl\u00fcyor, beden dili ile g\u00fc\u00e7 kazan\u0131yor. Duyma, dinleme ile ta\u00e7lan\u0131yor. Robert Winston \u0130nsan Beyni Evrenin En Karma\u015f\u0131k ve Gizemli Nesnesi kitab\u0131nda ya\u015fanan t\u00fcm ileti\u015fim s\u00fcre\u00e7lerinde hayat\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n gidi\u015fat\u0131n\u0131 beynimizin derinliklerinde ortaya \u00e7\u0131kan duyular\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n, duygular\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n ve ki\u015fili\u011fimizin tek bir noktadan nas\u0131l idare etti\u011fin g\u00f6zler \u00f6n\u00fcne seriyor. \u0130nsan\u0131n nas\u0131l ileti\u015fim kurdu\u011fu ve bu ileti\u015fimi nas\u0131l y\u00f6netti\u011fini inceleyen ara\u015ft\u0131rmalar s\u0131ras\u0131nda bilim insanlar\u0131 da art\u0131k beyin devrelerinin ola\u011fan\u00fcst\u00fc karma\u015f\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6rebiliyor, \u00e2\u015f\u0131k oldu\u011fumuzda, yalan s\u00f6yledi\u011fimizde ya da piyangoyu kazand\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 hayal etti\u011fimizde hangi b\u00f6lgelerinin enerji harcay\u0131p hangilerinin elektrik \u00fcretti\u011fini g\u00f6zlemleyebiliyor. Dolay\u0131s\u0131 ile ileti\u015fimin her an\u0131n\u0131n beyinde nas\u0131l bir etki yaratt\u0131\u011f\u0131na \u015fahit olunabiliyor.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Teknoloji \u00e7a\u011f\u0131nda ileti\u015fim mi ? Sadece \u0130letim mi?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Teknoloji \u00e7a\u011f\u0131 ileti\u015fimi iletime d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcrm\u00fc\u015f durumda. En yak\u0131n ge\u00e7mi\u015fe bak\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131nda 70 li y\u0131llar ger\u00e7ek ileti\u015fimin en g\u00fczel \u00f6rneklerinin art\u0131k son kez ya\u015fand\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir d\u00f6nemdi. Telefon ile aramak yerine insanlar\u0131n birbirlerini ziyaret ettikleri , k\u00f6\u015fedeki \u00e7i\u00e7ek\u00e7iden \u00e7i\u00e7ek al\u0131p hasta ziyaretine gittikleri , ak\u015fam oturmas\u0131na giderken 1 kg tulumba tatl\u0131s\u0131 al\u0131n\u0131p karton kutusuna \u00f6zenle rafya fiyonk yapt\u0131r\u0131lan, b\u00fcy\u00fckannelerin b\u00fcy\u00fckbabalar\u0131n dizinde masal dinlenen, karde\u015flerin birbirleri ile yatmadan \u00f6nce karanl\u0131kta en keyifli sohbetleri yapt\u0131klar\u0131, bayramda seyranda s\u0131cak kucakla\u015fmalar\u0131n, sohbetlerin ya\u015fand\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir d\u00f6nem. \u0130\u015f arkada\u015flar\u0131 ile vapurda simit \u00e7ay sohbetlerinin yap\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131, tek bir \u00e7izim masas\u0131n\u0131 gece sabaha kadar n\u00f6betle\u015fe kullanan mimarl\u0131k \u00f6\u011frencilerinin \u015fikayetten uzak arkada\u015fl\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131n ya\u015fand\u0131\u011f\u0131, bireysellikten uzak arabas\u0131 olan arkada\u015f\u0131n arabas\u0131na dolu\u015fulup i\u015fe gidilen, pazardan gelirken kar\u015f\u0131 kom\u015fuya da iki kilo elma al\u0131nan, k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fclenlerin aile i\u00e7inde y\u0131llarca dola\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131, ye\u011fenlerin kuzenlerin birbirlerini tan\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131, amcalar\u0131n, halalar\u0131n, teyzelerin ana baba yar\u0131s\u0131 oldu\u011fu, ya\u011fmurda \u00e7izmelerin i\u00e7ine naylon torba ge\u00e7irilen ve bir g\u00fcn olsun \u015fikayet edilmeyen bir d\u00f6nem. \u0130leti\u015fim Kalesinin g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc duvarlar\u0131ndan kopuk ya\u015fam tarz\u0131n\u0131n ge\u00e7emedi\u011fi bir d\u00f6nem.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Peki ne zaman y\u0131k\u0131ld\u0131 bu kalenin duvarlar\u0131 ?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Telgraf\u0131n Tellerinden Telefonun Tu\u015flar\u0131na<\/p>\n<p>\u00c7i\u00e7e\u011fin internetten sipari\u015f edildi\u011fi, kom\u015fular ile apartman toplant\u0131lar\u0131nda tan\u0131\u015f\u0131lan, herkesin arabas\u0131na tek ba\u015f\u0131na binmeyi se\u00e7ti\u011fi, kuzenlerin birbirleri ile ya cenazede ya d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131, konu\u015fulmayan, ileti\u015fim kurulmayan, 4A n\u0131n yani\u00a0<strong>Anlamak, anlatabilmek, anla\u015f\u0131lmak ve anla\u015fabilmek\u00a0<\/strong>d\u00f6rtl\u00fcs\u00fcn\u00fcn unutuldu\u011fu, bayram co\u015fkusunun, yeni bir y\u0131la girmenin heyecan\u0131n\u0131n yerini telefonun tu\u015flar\u0131ndan anlam kazanamayan smslerin so\u011fuk ikllimine b\u0131rakt\u0131\u011f\u0131 zaman y\u0131k\u0131ld\u0131 bu kalenin duvarlar\u0131. \u201cAy\u015fe bebek ho\u015f geldin\u2026Ahmet\u2019ci\u011fim sana ve e\u015fine mutluluklar dilerim.\u201d mesaj\u0131n\u0131 ald\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z g\u00fcn y\u0131k\u0131ld\u0131 bu kalenin duvarlar\u0131.<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u0130leti\u015fim bir bumerangt\u0131r.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Unutulmamal\u0131d\u0131r ki ileti\u015fim bir bumerangt\u0131r. Kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131zdaki ki\u015fiye nas\u0131l davran\u0131rsak, nas\u0131l ileti\u015fim kurarsak bize ayn\u0131 \u015fekilde yans\u0131r. Do\u011fru ileti\u015fim kurman\u0131n en \u00f6nemli s\u0131rlar\u0131ndan biri ileti\u015fimde fark\u0131ndal\u0131k olu\u015fturmakt\u0131r bu fark\u0131ndal\u0131k ta duygusal zeka ile m\u00fcmk\u00fcnd\u00fcr. Duygusal zeka ba\u015fl\u0131 ba\u015f\u0131na engin bir konu, bununla beraber duygusal zekay\u0131 geli\u015ftirme konusunda k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ip u\u00e7lar\u0131 vermek gerekirse i\u015fte kalenin duvarlar\u0131n\u0131 tekrar sa\u011flamla\u015ft\u0131rabilmek ad\u0131na yap\u0131labilecekler;<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Kendini Tan\u0131mak<\/li>\n<li>Duygular\u0131 Kontrol Etmeyi \u00d6\u011frenmek<\/li>\n<li>Kendini Ba\u015fkalar\u0131na A\u00e7\u0131k Tutmak<\/li>\n<li>\u0130leti\u015fim Kurma Yetkinli\u011fini Geli\u015ftirmek<\/li>\n<li>\u00c7\u00f6z\u00fcm Odakl\u0131 Olmak<\/li>\n<li>Ele\u015ftiriye ve Yeni Fikirlere A\u00e7\u0131k Olmak<\/li>\n<li>Farkl\u0131 Bak\u0131\u015f A\u00e7\u0131lar\u0131 Geli\u015ftirmek<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Anlad\u0131n m\u0131 ? sorusunun yerine Anlatabildim mi? sorusunun daha \u00e7ok soruldu\u011fu ileti\u015fim kalesinin duvarlar\u0131n\u0131n g\u00fc\u00e7lendi\u011fi bir d\u00fcnya i\u00e7in daha \u00e7ok ileti\u015fim daha \u00e7ok payla\u015f\u0131m. Sonu\u00e7ta ileti\u015fim ne i\u00e7in ? Anla\u015fabilmek i\u00e7in\u2026<br \/>\n&#8220;D\u00fcnyaya gelmemde maksat ne idi,<br \/>\nBir sad\u0131k dost bulup dem s\u00fcrme idi.&#8221;<br \/>\nA\u015f\u0131k Veysel<\/p>\n<p><strong>Bilge Bayku\u015f\u2019tan haftan\u0131n kitap \u00f6nerisi ;<\/strong>\u00a0Koridor Yay\u0131nlar\u0131, Joel Ben Izzy, Dilenci Kral ve Mutlulu\u011fun S\u0131rr\u0131\n<\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>(Bu makale Gazete Vatan&#8217;da yay\u0131nlanm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.) Anlamak, anlatabilmek, anla\u015f\u0131lmak ve anla\u015fabilmek \u00fczerine kurulu bir yol, bir y\u00f6ntem ve bir \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm\u2026 Hanzade Acar Sylviane Herpin diyor ki ; D\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fcz, s\u00f6ylemek istedi\u011finiz, s\u00f6yledi\u011finizi sand\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z, s\u00f6yledi\u011finiz, kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdakinin duymak istedi\u011fi, duydu\u011fu, anlamak istedi\u011fi, anlad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 sand\u0131\u011f\u0131, anlad\u0131\u011f\u0131\u2026aras\u0131nda farklar vard\u0131r. Dolay\u0131s\u0131yla insanlar\u0131n birbirini yanl\u0131\u015f anlamas\u0131 i\u00e7in en az 9 ihtimal var\u2026 S\u00fcrekli [&hellip;]<\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":470,"parent":0,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"footnotes":""},"class_list":["post-464","page","type-page","status-publish","has-post-thumbnail","hentry"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/onda.com.tr\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/464"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/onda.com.tr\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/onda.com.tr\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/page"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/onda.com.tr\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/onda.com.tr\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=464"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/onda.com.tr\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/464\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":465,"href":"https:\/\/onda.com.tr\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/464\/revisions\/465"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/onda.com.tr\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/470"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/onda.com.tr\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=464"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}